A QUIRKY, independent 38-year-old man believes he is too focused on his job and his happiness to give in to the pressure to marry.
Tom Logan, who changes his hair colour monthly, is tired of outdated social expectations suggesting a man’s worth should be measured by a wedding rather than personal growth, professional milestones and being just delightfully kooky.
Logan said: “For too long, men have been taught their ultimate goal is a wife. Why can’t I just focus on myself rather than be defined by who I’m with?”
“When a girl’s friends are slating me because we’ve been dating four years and I won’t talk co-habitation, I remind them I’m a feisty, confident man who isn’t just here to allow her to achieve life goals.
“Everyone – by which I mean women – are always asking ‘When are you going to settle down?’ or ‘Why didn’t you text me after sex?’ Never ‘Did you get that promotion?’ or ‘How’s your collage art project going?’ As if a man’s life is secondary.
“There’s no deadline, I won’t suddenly become invisible when I turn 40. I can freeze my sperm, I can get Botox, and if having a carefree love life gets me called a slut, then fine – because I reject labels. Especially ‘girlfriend’ and ‘monogamy’.”
He added: “I don’t know who my forever person is. But, you know what, she probably isn’t even born yet”, before taking a Polaroid and rollerskating away.
