Saturday, 24th October 2020

How to change the subject if someone starts talking about their feelings

DID you just ask someone how they’re feeling and now they’re actually telling you? Quash the conversation sharpish with these tips:

Set fire to yourself

By engulfing yourself in flames you’ll quickly find you’re both talking about pressing new topics, such as ‘Oh my god, you’re on fire’, ‘Doesn’t it hurt that you’re on fire?’ and ‘Why the f**k did you set yourself on fire?’ Don’t talk about how self-immolation makes you feel or you’re back to square one.

Ask unrelated questions

The more nonsensical the better. If your friend has started talking about how their messy divorce is getting them down, nod and then ask them if they think we’ll ever go to the moon again. Do this a few times and they should pipe down, or hopefully walk away altogether.

Pretend you saw a UFO

Cutting someone off mid-sentence is fine if you think you just saw a spaceship flying overhead. It doesn’t matter that they don’t exist: pretending they do is way more fun than talking about boring old emotions.

Laugh and say ‘Awkward!’

Find out if laughter is the best medicine by testing it out on their ennui, then brush the whole uncomfortable situation under the carpet by saying ‘awk-ward’ in a silly voice. If you’re already close with this person, feel free to use the more colloquial ‘awks’.

Bring up your own feelings

If they still haven’t realised you don’t care, it’s time to fight fire with fire. Instead of responding to their petty grievances with sympathetic noises, start talking about how you’ve never really been in love and worry about dying alone. They should immediately course-correct, but there’s a risk they might set themselves alight. Either way you win.